Couples Therapy

Couples Therapy

I work with couples in all different places with their relationship…

Couples in constant conflict, who feel like explosive fights keep happening over the (seemingly) littlest things.

Those who have grown apart and are trying to see if there is a way to find their way back to that initial spark.

Partners that feel like they are just not communicating how they want and are stuck trying to fix it on their own.

People at the start of their relationship who want to lay a strong foundation to build on in the years to come.

When there’s been a betrayal and they are reckoning with the pain of that and working through what is next for them as a couple.

I work with couples who are wanting things to change.

They want to change….

how they respond to their partner (or how their partner responds to them!).

how much they fight, how tense and intense things can get.

how misunderstood they feel by their partner.

how alone and disconnected they feel in the relationship.

They want their partner to truly know them and “get” them. And they feel stuck in making these changes happen on their own.

They are stuck….

in a well-practiced pattern of conflict that involves misunderstood messages and a lot of big emotions.

feeling like they are communicating clearly to each other yet they each feel misinterpreted and misunderstood.

in the pain of feeling far away from the person they want to feel closest to in the world.

What you can expect from working with me

My hope is that as a couple….

you will be able to slow down your conflict cycle and begin to find different ways to communicate and connect.

you will be able to catch the misunderstandings and try again, and really hear each other’s needs.

you will be able to create new ways to connect that offer care and support to each other and strengthen their bond.

you will feel relief and feel loved by your partner. That you will each feel understood and heard.

you will feel empowered and like you’ve found a way to quiet the storm together.

you will feel closer and more connected to each other.

How we will work together

After an initial consultation call where we will talk a little bit about what you are hoping to work on and I can answer any questions you have, we will schedule a first appointment. In that first meeting we will all decide together if it feels like a good fit to work together.

I’ll meet with you as a couple for the first one to two sessions. Then I will typically ask to meet with you each individually once to learn more about your experience in the relationship and what you are hoping to work on. From then on typically we meet all together.

Together we will identify the goals you have for the relationship and throughout our work we will track progress you feel you are making towards those goals.

What will we talk about?

Here is just a small sample of what we may talk about in our sessions: 

  • Why relationships matter so much to us from an attachment perspective
  • Getting to know the “cycle” of conflict you as a couple get stuck in
  • Discovering the meaning, feelings, and actions that happen for each of you in the “cycle”
  • Understanding your own feelings and needs and sharing that with your partner
  • Research about relationships and attachment
  • Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) approach to addressing your relationship problems

 Additional support I can provide:

  • Books to help you on your journey together
  • Referrals for individual therapy
  • Tools and strategies you can put into practice outside of sessions

Fees and Insurance

The fee is $130/session (50 minutes long).

If you want to use your insurance coverage, I am in-network with BCBS PPO & BlueChoice, Cigna, Optum United, Magellan, and Medicare.

If I am out-of-network for your insurance, I can provide you a receipt to submit to your insurance for out-of-network coverage.

A sliding scale fee is available through OpenPath.

Why I love doing couples therapy

I am trained in EFT (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy) and really believe in this approach’s way of getting to the heart of the problem. I love being part of the journey to help couples grow closer, to heal old festering wounds, to find the new path for their relationship.

Although sometimes this might mean walking through heartbreak with couples in a relationship where the hurt and pain and the distance cannot be bridged, I hope in those situations I can be helpful to the couple as they navigate through the grief of choosing to end a relationship.

I really like working with couples who are skeptical or unsure if couples therapy is for them, if it can help. We will figure that out together, but I have found that more often than not, it at least can help bring clarity to what is happening in the relationship.

Let’s get started

Call or email me to schedule a free 15 minute phone consultation to see if we’re a good fit.